When you’re going through a divorce, it’s easy to become encompassed in the very adult feelings that come along with it. Parents can’t become so focused on their own emotions that they forget the kids have feelings, too.
Children can become very stressed when their parents are going through a divorce. You have to be able to spot the signs of this happening so you can help them to work through their feelings. This is likely going to take both parents, as well as other trusted adults.
Get help keeping an eye on the children
You can enlist the help of other adults who are around your children on a regular basis. This might include their coaches, teachers, medical care team or religious leaders. Let them know what’s going on so they can try to help your child as they work through this major life change.
Discuss your feelings with the children
Children need to know that their emotions are normal. You can help them to see this by sharing your own feelings with them in an age-appropriate manner. It might also help you to let the kids know what to expect so they can start to get prepared. Be sure that you’re realistic and honest about these matters.
One of the most important things you can do to help your children is to get the parenting plan set in a way that reflects their needs. If you and your ex can get along well enough to negotiate the terms of the agreement, this is the best option because it lets you take your child’s needs into account. The sooner you can get this done, the sooner the kids can start to adjust to the new way of life.