The realization that a marriage is ending likely isn’t usually one that develops suddenly. Many people have a chance to prepare for a split because they know that their marriage is on shaky ground. If you’re in this position, there are some actionable steps you can take that will help you get ready for a transition from married life to the next phase of your story.
One of the most important things for you to do is to ensure you remain safe. In a marriage that’s rocky, but not abusive, you may have more time to prepare. If you’re in an abusive marriage, you may need to leave suddenly without being able to prepare. It’s best to put your safety first. But if you’re already safe, consider the following as you start moving forward.
Gather documents
Important documents, such as bank account statements, your marriage certificate, credit card statement, mortgage documents, birth certificates and similar paperwork, are often necessary during a divorce. It may not always be possible to keep the originals, but be sure you get copies of them.
Determine living arrangements
You need to think about where you’ll live. You may choose to move out of the marital home, but this is something that should be considered carefully. There are instances in which leaving the marital home may have negative impacts during a divorce.
Learn about your finances
Marital finances are important during a divorce. Even if you’ve never known much about the financial of your marriage, now is the time to learn as much as you can. This can also help you to make the plan for covering the bills and financial matters during and after the divorce.
Set up your support system
Going through a divorce is challenging. Take the time find your support system now. This can be family members, close friends, professionals and support groups. The more support you have, the less stress you may feel during the divorce.
Protect your personal information
Divorce can sometimes bring out the worst in people. Because of this, it’s best for you to take steps to protect your personal information. This can include locking your credit reports, changing passwords for online accounts, getting a Post Office box and separating your phone plan for privacy.
Protecting your rights as your marriage ends is critical. This is your opportunity to try to work out a property division settlement that puts you on the best financial footing for your future. You may also have to work through child custody arrangements and other concerns. Remember, you don’t have to do this alone. Seeking personalized guidance and support is always an option.