Parental alienation happens when one parent influences a child to turn against the other parent. This issue arises in many custody cases and can cause emotional harm to both the child and the alienated parent. Many people assume this is rare, but it happens more often than expected.
What is parental alienation?
Parental alienation occurs when a parent manipulates a child’s perception of the other parent. This can involve making negative comments, limiting communication, or exaggerating flaws. Over time, the child may resist spending time with the alienated parent, leading to a damaged relationship. Courts take this behavior seriously, as it can impact custody decisions and the child’s well-being.
Under Illinois law, 750 ILCS 5/602.7, courts determine parental responsibilities based on the child’s best interests, which includes ensuring that no parent is unjustly alienated.
Why does it happen so often?
Divorce and custody battles can create tension between parents. In some cases, one parent may use the child as a way to hurt the other. Feelings of resentment, anger, or revenge can drive this behavior. Additionally, some parents believe they are protecting their child from the other parent, even when no real danger exists. Because these cases often involve subtle emotional tactics, they can be difficult to detect.
How does it affect children?
Children caught in parental alienation often experience confusion, guilt, and anxiety. They may feel pressured to choose sides, which can lead to long-term emotional distress. Relationships with extended family members can also suffer. Studies show that children subjected to alienation may struggle with self-esteem, trust issues, and future relationships.
What can be done about it?
Recognizing the signs early is important. Courts may order therapy, co-parenting classes, or supervised visitation to address the problem. Keeping open communication and maintaining a positive presence in your child’s life can help counteract alienation. Seeking professional help can also provide strategies to rebuild the damaged parent-child relationship.
Parental alienation is a serious issue that affects more families than many realize. Raising awareness and taking proactive steps can help protect children from its harmful effects.